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>tfw no gf
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No. 96557
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>no [girlfriend]
Oh, I'm sorry, Anonpony. :( I see a lot of people express that feeling on the internet...

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But at a more analytical level, I wonder why so many people are concerned about this problem. Are relationships really as important and many people seem to think they are, or is it more peer pressure and media that makes relationships seem really important to people?
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>>96557
I think my loneliness on a fraternal level and my hormonal state are far more influential in this than peer pressure and societal expectations.
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But being more mature, while there is some matter of peer pressure to it, the desire for some romantic companionship is likely driven by our animal instincts.
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>>96560
>>96562
I've never had a relationship, and I think I'm OK that way. So I reason that perhaps everyone would be better off without relationships, and I try to prevent relations or break them when I see them.

I suppose alternate possibilities are (1) I'm not the same as most people, or (2) I'm actually not OK.

But for now, I recommend avoiding love, as I think it might be unhealthy.
No. 96566
Do you think Flower would be my gf?
No. 96567
>>96566
you know she's trans though, right?
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>>96567
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>>96565
>I recommend avoiding love, as I think it might be unhealthy.
If love isn't healthy, then nothing is.
It's incredibly extreme to say that the very driving force of human reproduction is unhealthy and unfit for everyone.
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>>96566
>>96567
Thanks for using female pronouns. :) But yes, the only way I'll really be a satisfactory girlfriend would be to use a virtual body. (Picture is my progress so far...spheres are nice, right? :P) The virtual body should work great as long as another person can put up with never actually getting to meet me, but it will take me a few months to get anywhere.

>>96569
>If love isn't healthy, then nothing is.
Well, romantic (sexual) love is only one kind of love. But it's true most songs on the radio focus on sexual love.

>It's incredibly extreme to say that the very driving force of human reproduction is unhealthy and unfit for everyone.
You're right, my view is not common or popular. If I were less autistic I'd probably abandon it because of that, but I think relationships promote dependency and abuse. As far as reproduction, I guess I'm not certain that bringing another life into the world is an act of charity. I'm not sure...life is worth living, I guess. Whether suffering or joy is the greater force. At least I'm not sure in all cases.
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>>96570
>Those curves
Oh baby.
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>>96571
>Those curves
I knew someone out there would have a geometry fetish. :P
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>>96565
>So I reason that perhaps everyone would be better off without relationships
>But for now, I recommend avoiding love, as I think it might be unhealthy.
But this isn't a one-size-fits-all shoe.
No. 96577
Hmm - I heard some advice from an MLP writer on "writers block" (a term he doesn't like) that is so applicable to so many situations. He said something like "Don't spend your energy asking yourself why you're struggling to write, as it'll feed into itself and make it worse. Spend your energy on writing."

I was going to try and apply it to shyness, but maybe it also goes for being single / trying to rectify that.

I'm content enough alone generally. Recently I've felt a bit emotionally lonely, but a few times I've started something online and couldn't really cope with having someone else to worry about on that level. I'm very much a free spirit. Trying to do things online may have been an issue, though.
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>>96575
>But this isn't a one-size-fits-all shoe.
What is see as unhealthy is co-dependency and abuse. I know some relationships involve these aspects. My suspicion is that perhaps even most do. But of course I'm not in a position to say all do.
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>>96578
How is all codependency unhealthy?
From an anthropological standpoint, all of human nature is built on codependency with the other members of your tribe.
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>>96579
>How is all codependency unhealthy?
>From an anthropological standpoint, all of human nature is built on codependency with the other members of your tribe.

Dependency is very human.

Hmm...

Let me tell you about Skunkie. Skunkie is my stuffed animal friend. He's always there for me, always ready to cuddle when I need him. I am dependent on Skunkie. As a result, Skunkie can not have much of an independent identity. Skunkie can not change or grow. If Skunkie, say, liked ice hockey, he might not be available to me when watching a game, or practicing, or whatever. With actual people, dependency can prevent a person from having a independent identity which can prevent growth.

Now, all humans have some dependencies. A baby is dependent on her mother (or father, etc.). A mother's identity therefore is in some part dependent on her relationship to the baby, and what she can be in addition to mother is limited by the infant's dependency. Is that a bad thing? Not necessarily. Dependency is bad when it inhibits growth -- if a person is happy as a mother or father, it's fine. Also, an infant needs to be dependent, and it is through the dependency that the baby grows.

Now back to relationships. Does the co-dependency of relationships prevent people from growing? In some cases I think it does. But like the infant, is some dependency necessary? Can relationships sometimes promote growth? I don't know.

All I really know is that when I see people in a relationship, I have...mixed feelings. I have trouble being fully happy for those people. The feeling is subjective -- something inside of me, and I don't completely understand the cause.
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